Adulting is a new term to describe being able to take care of the responsibilities that come with being an adult. While there are a lot of articles, checklists and experts in the area giving advice on adulting, nobody is actually perfect and you don’t have to be. It’s about making things work for you and making life easier in the long run.
The first step to adulting is to take responsibility. Don’t leave it to your parents or someone else to worry about your responsibilities. Don’t leave things pile up until you have maxed out a credit card, have a mountain of housework where you don’t know where to start and a ton of things you need to get done at the last minute. With a bit of forward planning, you can get organised and make it less stressful.
Time management is all about prioritising what is important to you. If something matters to you then you should spend more time on it. I don’t always get a chance to dust the bookshelves because I would rather spend time with my toddler and husband and I’m fine with that. Put the amount of effort and time into what actually matters and what bugs you the most. Don’t worry about the rest, life is too short.
Focus on Stressful Areas
Focus on the areas that are most important and what is causing you the most stress. If you get stressed about cooking dinner when you get home from work, then work on cooking in bulk on a Sunday or make a time that you will do meal planning. If you hate the mountain of laundry that you have to tackle on the weekend, work out how you can get it done during the week.
From housework, to sorting finances and bills, buying groceries and cooking. It’s about being organised and working out how to do things in a way that works for you. I don’t like spending time on finances, so I pay bills as soon as I get them so I don’t have to worry about them again. I leave enough money in my account so I don’t have to worry about the timing of when I pay a bill, when I get paid and when the mortgage comes out. I just focus on living within my means overall. Making a system doesn’t have to be complicated. It might mean writing things down, having a checklist or just working out when and how to do things.
Make a Routine
A routine means that you keep on top of your responsibilities and housework so you don’t have to think too much about it. Break it down into a daily and a weekly routine that includes everyone. It has to work for you and your family. I wash the dishes after dinner, my husband puts them away in the morning while I’m having a shower and while my daughter is eating breakfast. I do a load of laundry every second day, with towels and sheets done on a Saturday morning. That way I don’t have to wonder when was the last time I washed the sheets, or work out when I’m going to do it. We do the vacuuming, mopping and clean the bathroom on a Saturday morning because the weekend is when we are more likely to have visitors drop around, it’s when we have more time to get it done and then we get to spend the weekend in a nice clean house. Everyone is involved in cleaning together on a Saturday morning and then we do other fortnightly or monthly chores. What works for us might not work for you and it will change as your commitments change.
For the first few years with my husband he would help with chores but the responsibility of making sure everything got done sat on my shoulders. But then my mental load expanded with the responsibilities of a child, a business, as well as the house, finances, and my part time job. It got too much, so I wrote a list of things he was responsible for and I broke them up into daily, weekly and monthly tasks. I had to let him make mistakes and suffer the consequences. It was harder at first for both of us, but a lot easier in the long run.
Develop Mental Muscle
Rather than worry about what could happen or stressing that you don’t know how to do something, acknowledge those feelings but try to focus on how to solve the problem. Find strategies that work for you, google how to do things and find ways to ease your stress. We often fear the outcome is going to be a lot worse than what could actually happen. If something bad does happen, use that as a learning experience. You are capable. I used to get anxious when I didn’t feel like I was on top of things but then I worked out that as long as I had written down a list of what needs to be done, I could just focus on what I needed to do first.
Look After Yourself
Make a set time that you go to bed so that you get enough sleep. Book a check-up at the dentist twice a year. Make time to relax. Focus on quality relationships with just a few people rather than pleasing lots of people or impressing your Facebook friends. Work out what makes you happy and don’t worry about what other people think.
You Don’t Have To Have It All Figured Out
Sometimes things slip, but that’s okay. Nobody gets a medal for the cleanest house or being the most organised. Adulting is about doing things now that your future self would thank you for and working out what works best for you. You got this!
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